When smoking out of a pipe, you’re expected to take a single “hit” before you pass, but if smoking a joint or blunt, you’re allowed to take a few hits before passing to the next person. The common phrase “puff, puff, pass” is therefore nothing more than simple instructions for toking in a group.
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M arijuana is best used in a community setting; it is a great way to create new friendships and strengthen existing ones. But, like anything that is done in a public or social setting, there are both good and bad ways to conduct yourself.
As an exception to rule #7, it is okay to light your own marijuana if you’ve rolled the joint or blunt. If someone else uses your weed to roll, however, they should light it.
Rolling a good joint is hard to do and it takes a lot of practice to improve. But smoking a poorly-rolled jay can be a real downer during a smoking session, resulting in either wasted weed or an unsmokable product. If your rolling skills aren’t quite up to par, let your friends know. Someone else will probably offer to help.
Whether it’s your piece or a friend’s, be sure to treat it with care, especially if it’s made out of something fragile like glass. Dante from the movie “Grandma’s Boy” understands this, but it can be easy to forget a piece in your lap after the session has ended. If using glass pieces, please be careful.
No one wants a mouth full of someone else’s saliva (unless the mood is right, but that’s usually not the case in a smoke circle). So please, be polite and keep your spit to yourself. If it can’t be helped, then at least wipe the mouth piece before handing it off.
What’s commonly thought of as a catchy song lyric by reggae group Musical Youth is actually a very common rule in most smoke circles. The benefits of establishing a common direction of rotation during a session (typically clockwise)is especially helpful once a few rounds have been completed and people start forgetting things.
The best hit is always a green hit, so don’t keep it all to yourself. Instead of burning the whole surface of a bowl, light only a small corner so that the next person (or two) can enjoy a green hit, too.
Marijuana is wonderful to share with you social circle or with new friends, but your manners speak volumes about your personality. Here are the 18 proper stoner etiquette tips that you should consider for your next social smoke-out.
That book, Etiquette: In Society, In Business, In Politics and At Home, provides guidance on the correct length of cloth for an afternoon tea table, the proper way to sign a condolence card, and why it’s uncouth to offer a bride “congratulations” for securing a husband. (Extend your best wishes instead.) Post also references the polite enjoyment of cigarettes and cigars. “There is not a modern New York hostess, scarcely even an old-fashioned one,” she wrote, “who does not have cigarettes passed after dinner.”
If you’re unsure whether a driver is allowed to accept a tip, just ask. With both bud-tenders and delivery people, think of food-service as a model.
If you’re hosting houseguests, Post suggests letting them know the aforementioned protocols, in addition to alerting them of any “house stash” (properly labeled, of course) to which they may help themselves, and pointing them to local dispensaries.
With an embossed gold title on a pale green twill-textured cover, Higher Etiquette looks like it belongs on a coffee table alongside a mid-century modern brass ashtray, and perhaps a hand-glazed ceramic one-hitter. It comes out March 26, and would make a lovely gift come 4/20.
“As opposed to the standard two hits off a joint.”
This is a legal business now, and they’re at work!
Fun fact: “Bogarting is a term derived from the way Humphrey Bogart would just let a cigarette hang out of his mouth, not seeming to actually smoke it.” Don’t do that. Writes Post: “‘It’s not a microphone.’” Pass it!
“Etiquette is the science of living,” said Emily Post, who wrote the 1922 book that is still the prevailing tome on the topic. ”It is the code of sportsmanship and of honor. It is ethics.”
For those whose stoner schooling stopped at puff, puff, pass, there is now a literal guidebook. And it’s good. Post—who works with her relatives to maintain their ancestor’s legacy with the Emily Post Institute—writes with humor and grace, combining basic principles of “higher etiquette,” including respect, generosity, gratitude, and sharing, with technicalities of today’s newfangled age of cannabis consumption: What, again, is “dabbing”?
How to smoke weed with good manners.